Much of my work over the years has been with “reluctant leaders.”  Do you know who makes up a large portion of Reluctant Leaders? Women.

Women also make up a large number of the great change agents. There’s a reason for the saying, “Behind every great man is a great woman.”  I, however, prefer the more modern variant:  “Behind every great man is a supportive and devoted woman to keep his head on straight!”

In their traditional role of “support person,” women leaders generally started off supporting someone else.  That’s why they seem reluctant – they haven’t been in the mindset of considering themselves leaders, even though in their actions they personified the very definition of the word!

For example, Eleanor Roosevelt accomplished many things – including chairing the United Nations Human Rights Commission – as the First Lady, a job title that had no substance at the time. And let’s not forget the first female President of the United States, Edith Wilson. You know Edith, Pres. Woodrow Wilson’s wife. She was the one who ran the country while the President recovered from a stroke.

And then there’s me. As a Major in the United States Army, I brought together very high-powered leaders, including 4-Star Generals, to discuss matters of importance. As this was my job, I didn’t see it as leadership. It wasn’t until, many years later, a total stranger in a workshop came up to me to say, “Well, I thought you would lead us in this exercise. It is what I expected of you.”

Where did she get that idea? Well, she apparently saw leadership qualities in me that I didn’t see in myself, and believed that I was the right person to stand up and lead in this situation. Female, male, reluctant or not, being a strong leader means you do the things that others are not willing or in a position to do.

A more recent example of the reluctant leader is Malala Yousafzai – who couldn’t stay silenced, even as a child, watching girls being denied the basic right of education. She didn’t “choose” to be a leader, but when she was faced with a situation that needed change, she stepped into leadership, even with all its risks. And look at what she has built as a result!

We can also look to the tragedy of the high school shooting in Parkland, FL, in 2018, where the  teens themselves, who likely hadn’t thought of themselves as leaders or dreamed of “being a leader,” knew in that moment that leadership was required. And, as a New York Times article describes it, they made that moment into a movement. Their work continues today against gun violence and Get Out the Vote campaigns for first-time voters.

You can probably think of women you know who stepped into leadership, maybe reluctantly, when they were called to do so. Maybe you’re one of those women…

Sometimes the situation calls for us to discover and uncover that reluctant leader within us. We get to choose whether or not we answer that call and, ultimately, what standard we’re going to hold for ourselves in this life.  Abolitionist Henry Ward Beecher said: “Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anybody expects of you. Yourself.” Valuable advice!

Linda Patten is a Leadership Trainer for women entrepreneurs and change-makers, her vision for every woman is to become the natural leader she is meant to be, through teaching an empowering mindset, masculine AND feminine leadership skills, and how to activate a vision into a full-bodied business or social change movement. Let’s explore some ideas together! Schedule a chat with me today or drop me an email.

Submit a Comment